Valentine’s Day is that day of the year where those who have had the privilege of finding love, get to celebrate it further. And for those who have not, to have more alone time with themselves, to wonder if they too will ever find that special someone in their life.
I remember the days when I was single. Always I’d cling to that secret hope, that leading up to the fourteenth, some miracle would happen, that something would get sparked between me and that girl I was interested in. But each year, it’d be me and that same bunch of guy friends, at a park or in someone’s apartment, strumming the guitar and singing, “All By Myself” and “Only The Lonely”.
Valentine’s Day, when you really think about it, is one of the cruellest modern day inventions, designed to make those who are lonely, feel lonelier. It’s like having Rich Day, where people with money get to show off their fortune with pomp; this while the less fortunate watch on.
Should Valentine’s Day be abolished then? Definitely not. Love is the most beautiful thing in the world, and should indeed be celebrated. But maybe it should be celebrated differently.
If I were given the opportunity to rewrite the world, Valentine’s Day would be that one day in the year where couples deprive themselves of each other for 24 hours… no contact whatsoever. I believe we achieve two things by doing this.
For one, couples would be reminded of what it was like when they too were at one time alone. And that instead of shutting the world out like some couples do, they would become more mindful of their single friends, and be more ready to offer companionship to those around them, their single and lonely friends who watch from afar, hoping that love will one day find them.
Secondly, the separation would give couples an opportunity to recognise everything they enjoy about each other the other 364 days of the year. Kahlil Gibran had written, “Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” Perhaps, at the pace at which the world currently moves, this is what every relationship needs, a timeout, a day of reflection, so that each may progress forth afterwards with renewed appreciation for the other.
If like me, you believe this is the way forward, share this with everyone you know. Change happens when enough people speak in the same voice.